It is OKAY to Burn Bridges

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“Whenever people agree with me I always feel I must be wrong.” -Oscar Wilde

I am not afraid to burn bridges. Especially when those around me promote poor attitudes and phony intentions. I actually like the selectiveness of my nature. Ironically, it’s a way of telling someone he needs to reevaluate his actions instead of wasting your energy trying to “change” them all. Unfortunately, that translation gets lost because those individuals usually have plenty of followers who think they’re “just splendid”. It may sweeten your coffee, but it’s excess fat you can’t get rid of. (Personally, I want to stay a size 4 for as long as I can.)

I want to encourage you to stop being afraid of people’s opinions of you. More often than not, those opinions belong to negative, hypocritical minds who don’t realize how ugly they are. How many times will you choose to cross that flammable bridge and wait to get burned? Let that bridge burn once you’re off. Let it drag itself down. It’ll age quickly and realize it has never helped anyone get across to greener pastures. Humans already criticize themselves too much to have others do it for them.

If you have always felt this way, but needed someone to tell you it was okay, let me help…IT IS OKAY TO GET RID OF THEM. Having everyone like you does NOT always mean you are doing things “right”, it means people find you vulnerable and easy to manipulate. You must ask yourself what kind of people you are attracting and look inward from there.

The flip side of this is you don’t want to be hated by everyone. My grandma (bless her soul) was a likable woman. I can’t tell you the amount of people who showed up to her funeral and still speak highly of her to this day, ten years later. However, my grandma also spoke her mind. She forcefully stood up for her beliefs, but not one word out of her mouth was fake or without honor. She was capable of sincerity while continuing to be loved. It is possible to stay human and fight for what’s right. We honor these people through memorials, yet we don’t practice what they preach.

Practice loud, but don’t sell yourself short. I guarantee when you feel lonely because you purged the negative souls, you are only getting stronger. Gather up that strength to build monuments of generosity and truth. You don’t want to be one of those bottom feeders looking up at all the awesome things someone else is doing. Trust me, when you accept yourself (flaws and all), you only allow good souls to find you. I have already found some of my own.

Stay strong. I love all of your souls.

1 Comment
  • Jessi
    April 15, 2014

    I absolutely LOVE this post! It was so inspiring especially for where I am in my life at this moment. I have just been debating back and forth with myself on whether or not I should burn certain bridges. It is a constant struggle and most of the time I find that the outcome, should I not burn the bridge, would result in my unhappiness. You’re article definitely shows that there can be a correlation between burning bridges and happiness. Sometimes it’s not always best to please people, or the wrong people that is. Because if you are not going to be happy in the long run, why waste all those days being miserable! And just like your article states, I just needed someone to tell me that it was OK. So thank you Nina!

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